Relationships can enrich our lives, but they can also do harm. Whether it’s a friend, family member or partner, every relationship comes with its challenges. And more often than not, the effort to resolve relationship issues can and will result in a healthier bond.
But there are those relationships that, no matter the amount of work and goodwill put into them, will never repay your time or heart investment. These relationships are toxic and they must be ended in order to heal and move on.
3 signs that the relationship should end
For example, are there more negative interactions than positive ones?
Every relationship has its good interactions and its not-so-good ones. But there are those relationships that seem like every interaction is tense and filled with negative emotions.
When communication becomes difficult or impossible, the relationship is beyond repair.
Hugely different needs
In the beginning of a new friendship or romance, it’s easy to try and compromise with each other to make sure both people’s needs are met. Over time, some friends or couples realize that their needs are too different.
For example, in a romantic couple, one needs more sex than the other. Someone may always need to be in control or feel the need to lie. These kinds of conflicting needs are a red flag for any relationship.
A blatant disrespect
Respect is essential in relationships. But sometimes there are individuals who seem incapable of respecting the other person, their needs, their boundaries, their wishes, etc. These people are usually on the narcissistic spectrum and are incapable of empathy or respect for the needs of others.
This is by no means an exhaustive list of signs, but these three are some of the most common and problematic signs.
Let go and move on
Once you know it’s time to end the relationship, you’ll find your head and heart going back and forth wondering if you’re making the right decision. That’s why it’s always a good idea to have someone in your corner that you can rely on to give you honest feedback, sound advice and clarity.
Sometimes you can find this champion in your network of friends and family, but sometimes it might be best to find a completely neutral third party. Someone you never have to wonder if they “just say that” because they love and care about me.
A therapist can help you navigate your intense emotions and make the best decision for your happiness and peace of mind.
Counseling is available in Cary, Illinois
If you are currently struggling with a relationship and need help navigating it, please contact me at 847 275 8236. I would be happy to discuss how I can help you.